Transcend To Non-duality

One's Singularity Is The One Self imbedded In A Network Of Essential Others

The step that needs to be taken at this point along the Heartwood Path is a step from a rung of personal development characterized by masculinity—by which I mean, among other things, hyper-rationality, competition, and atomistic thinking (seeing everything as separate)—to a rung characterized by femininity—intuition, cooperation, and a focus on relationships.

This contrast between masculinity and femininity has very little to do with femaleness and maleness.

This step brings one to non-duality—the blending of you as a subject with your object of inquiry—but it ought to not mean that all parts are blended into a homogenous whole. There are still parts, just as there is also one whole and one individual self. The needed step leads to the realization of“self-in-relationship”—not an egoistic self that is merged with a separate other, but the one Self imbedded in a network of essential others.

We all know that men are like steel, they lose their worth when they lose their temper. Women are like telephones, they love to be held and talked to. The thinnest book I ever saw was on the subject of what men know about women. Whether you are a man or a woman, never marry for money. You will have to earn every penny. My ex-wife always had the last word in every argument with her father. Whatever was said after that was just the beginning of the next argument. This relationship training ground is where I learned about the possibility of projecting past grievances on to other people. Which is worse? Trying to live up to superheroes, as many men do; or trying to live up to Barbie, as many women do.

To Merge Subject And Object…